I received the following message yesterday from an old friend and thought it would be great to share this conversation with you, as well.
So I’ve read your posts, looked at your website, and watched your sample videos. If you had to pick a starting point for someone who has a dream, but has spent most of their life being “against” themselves, what would you tell them? How do you know if it really IS just a dream?
L – thanks for the message – great to hear from you. You inspired today’s post.
I use the term Dream -AND it hit me after seeing your message that I don’t like how unattainable it sounds… will it just be a figment of my imagination?
So – I’m changing my phrasing to: Dream big! and then set it up as a “Burled Arch Destiny”!
For those that have read my ‘Iditarod Leadership’ book or followed the Iditarod – you know the term ‘Burled Arch’ – as it is the finish line and the term ‘Destiny’ that comes from the same word as Destination. Destiny is not ‘Fate’ (whatever happens to me – that’s my Destiny) – no – Destiny is a decided beforehand Destination that I am determined to reach!
With ‘Burled Arch Destiny” – all we need is the map, the skill and the will to get there!
Maps are creatable – Skill is grow-able…. only one question left – do you have the WILL?
So what I would tell people is this: “Dream Big! AND then learn the steps that it is going to take to get you there.”
• Where are you now along this trail?
• Why do you want this Destiny?
• What will you need to Learn?
• What skills will you need to develop?
• What role will others play in helping you reach this Burled Arch?
• What are measurable steps along the way?
• What is the NEXT step?
If you can understand and take the next step and continue that process (WILL) – nothing can stop you from reaching your “Burled Arch Destiny”!
It’s not going to be perfect – anything worth doing – is worth doing UGLY! Ugly is how we start and it leads us to continuous improvement!
(remember how bad we all were when we first started learning to play sports as little kids? Eventually – if the WILL persists, the skill improves and you make JV and then on to Varsity! It takes talent – but as my mentor John Maxwell says, “Talent is NEVER enough!”)
Finally, what do we do with all of the self-defeating voices in our head?
• Fight them with everything you have!
• What the roots drink – the fruits think!
• Celebrate small victories and progress ‘Checkpoints’ like crazy!
Saturate yourself in “Can do – positivity!” Find a voice – someone that lifts you up – and listen to their positive beliefs. I listen (almost daily) to speakers that are highly positive and motivational – why? because I need it too!
Read, listen, watch – anything you can to make sure your tank stays full of the belief in possibilities!
Next – Celebrate any progress – ANY progress toward your Burled Arch Destiny – you learn a new skill, take a new class, spend 30 minutes in dreaming and mapping! – whatever it is mark down and celebrate the wins! This is the fuel needed to keep it up! Why keep running if you think you’re not going anywhere? Mark your progress – celebrate the smallest progress!
Lastly – find an encouraging friend, accountability partner or coach… when you start to doubt (which we all do!), when you want to quit – you’ll need them to cheer you on!
Keep Dreaming – Keep moving – Keep growing – Keep doing! The Burled Arch Destiny is attainable!